I Need to Write

I discovered a poem

From an American great

About writing and how it needs to “roar” out of you

And that it only makes sense if it’s a light inside you,

Burning you up inside if you don’t do it


And yes, this is me

Constrained and confined


And then I write,

And it’s better than wine

There are few things more satisfying


It burns more bright and colorful than a sunrise

It steams more hot than the first sip of coffee

It burns and it rages and its flames are growling

Like dragons in a dungeon

I feel my heart racing



Some let it out through song or dance

some through sports or music

Some people don’t have it

And others let it die

But dying might be less painful

Than living a lie


I am living a lie

When I have this inside me

That needs to get out

That flows without boundaries

And kills me inside

When it’s inside


And it all became so clear

I need to write


Inspired by “So You Want to be a Writer” by Charles Bukowski


In Our Darkness

October 9, 2016


As I sit in an office of concrete walls and concrete floors

The hum of conveyor belts outside the doors

I sit here, on a Sunday

It’s my birthday

But I’m at work, not getting paid for the overtime,

this time, and many more

It’s in this darkness that I feel, that I overcome

That I have some peace


The other morning I was walking into work

At 4:00 AM and the streetlamps were off

The pathways were not lit

It was dark

And it was God

Because all I felt when I could see or hear or feel nothing

Was God


The thickness of God permeated the air

I was walking through Him, nothing else there

Not a star, not the moon

It was in that darkness that I felt God move

Like a cloud of fog I walked through Him

And felt God move


I was silent in His silence

And I wished I could know what He was doing in the dark

Always awake, as we sleep, as we work

He is always there, moving, working, being

His power is thick in our darkness.

Love of my Life

The love of my life is tall.

His body is solid, but gives just enough for me to lay down my head and sink into his chest.

His arms hold our babies. His mustache and beard tickles their sweet faces.

His hair is short and soft, his eyes deep and piercing.

His lips are plump and his nose is perfect.

He has a few freckles but he won’t admit it.


He likes to joke, and has a loud laugh.

He is playful and witty, sarcastic in fact.

He loves the outdoors, and manly sports.

He is a bit of a perfectionist and likes to keep his things neat.


He is generous, and trusting, and always provides.

He works hard to make sure he takes care of us all.

He is steady, responsible, and consistent.

He is calm but easily provoked.


Sometimes I think the love of my life has OCD.

He tells me to turn off the lights when I’m not in a room.

Or close the window as soon as the air conditioner turns on.

Makes fun of my parking and the way that I drive.


But he doesn’t give up on me now matter how horrible I am.

He will love me forever, he says, and always be there.

He provides and protects, and always comes home.

He makes sure we have the best of everything we need.


He takes his mom out to lunch and never forgets his brothers’ birthdays.

He brings me flowers on Mother’s Day, and takes me out to dinner on our Anniversary.

He goes above and beyond for our daughters’ birthdays.

He is stable and constant, reliable always.


The love of my life is tall and has a lot to bear.

But he carries it with grace. I don’t think he’s aware.

He’s tall, and he’s steady, and his shoulder is rest for my weary head.

He is a husband, a father, a son, and a brother.

He is comfort, he is home, he is safety.

He is the love of my life.


Write and Decide

Some people take only seconds to make life-impacting decisions. If you’re an introvert like me, you’ll need more time to sort through all of the pros, cons, and potential outcomes before making a significant decision in life. For introverts, making important decisions is more of a science than a confident impulse.

Whether it’s a major career move or the decision to leave an unhealthy relationship, you need to have your head in the game when it comes time to take action. Asking friends and family for help or turning to the internet for inspiration often leads to no conclusion.

So what do you do when you’re indecisive yet a decision needs to be made?

You write. Leave your friends and family out of it and just write. According to Psychology Today, “introverts are drained by social encounters and energized by solitary, often creative pursuits.”

Writing will help you to figure out, without a doubt, what you want and what needs to be done. Be brave enough to put your thoughts down in writing, and you’ll realize the outcome you really want and know what you need to do to make it happen.

How Being an Introvert Impacts Your Decision-Making

Introverts tend to second guess everything they do. They are incredibly observant and intelligent, but they don’t make bold decisions on demand. They are the strong and silent type, needing days or months to contemplate big decisions or take those first steps towards what they really want in life. Alena Hall says in this HuffPost article that “introverts naturally prefer spending time alone or in a small group, delving deeply into one task at a time and taking their time when it comes to making decisions and solving problems.” Once they do make a decision, introverts usually stick to it steadfastly.

Unfortunately for the introvert, the tendency to stagnate when it comes to making decisions can cause them to settle in the interim, allowing mediocre circumstances to take over. Introverts are paralyzed by the fear of making the wrong decision or not being able to follow through with a decision they do make – so they delay.

Types of Advice-givers

Most people ask family, friends, and their spouse what to do when making a major decision. They desperately research online to find stories of people in similar situations. But should you really listen to all that advice?

Your friends and family love you and want the best for you. The only problem is that their idea of what’s best for you might not actually be what’s best for you. In my experience, there are two types of advice-givers.

The Dreamer

The dreamer will dream right along with you and tell you whatever you want to hear. These well-meaning friends and relatives are always on your side. They sense how you feel about each choice based on the way you present it to them. They already know what you want, and they are just there to point you in the direction you are leaning towards anyway.

All the dreamer does is agree with you (because you convinced them) and they don’t give you any new substance. While you may feel encouraged, you still depart the conversation in the same indecisive spot where you began.

The Realist

A second type of advice-giver is the realist. In contrast to the dreamer, the realist tells you that everything is a bad idea. They are quick to point out the risks in every scenario. They think they have your best interest at heart by telling you the safest thing to do. They don’t care about your dreams; they shut them down in the name of practicality. They fear for your destruction and try to offer up the most sound solution while dismissing your true desires.

But don’t we all need someone like this to keep us on track and from making bad choices? In moderation, sure. When we have a completely unrealistic idea, yes. The issue with this type of advisor is that they stunt your personal growth. They strike down your desired choice before it can even flourish. They will tell you to be a business major when you really want to study music. They will tell you to stick with the guy who has a stable job when you really love the bootstrapping entrepreneur.

Why and How to Write and Decide

In an article on Lifehack.org, Tom Farr suggests that “introverts tend to be naturally cautious people, approaching any task with great thought and care. While this could be a detriment if caution is allowed to turn into paralysis, it can be a great asset if they learn to utilize it to get things done.”

So how does an introvert get things done? First, they should direct all that focus and creative energy into writing out their thoughts. If someone really has all these unsorted emotions bottled up inside, they will be dying to come out.

If you don’t know where to start, try writing about your life, the decisions you’ve made so far, and why you are now in a position to decide what to do next. Then write out what you are going to do about it.

Try structuring your reflective writing like this:

  1. How did I get to where I’m at now?
  2. Why am I unsatisfied with this situation?
  3. What is my ideal outcome?
  4. What do I need to do now?

Releasing your feelings on the page is a big stress-reliever. This alone will allow you to think more clearly about your situation. Writing out what you want without fear of what anyone else might think will paint a clear picture of who you are and what you want. While you might portray a certain persona to others, reflecting without reservation will bring things out of you that are buried deep.

Listening to Your Inner Voice

Only you know what’s best for you. The problem is that you don’t know how to sort through your thoughts to get a clear idea of what you want and why it’s so important to you. Once you know what you want with clarity and confidence, it shouldn’t be difficult to conjure up the courage to go for it. After all, now you know what you truly want and why you want it. If it’s that important to you, you’ll make it happen. So open up that word document, and start writing.